Ten steps to Confidence even if you don’t have it
10 steps to confidence – or at least faking it til you get it!
1. It’s not about you.
Understand people’s actions, even when hurtful, rarely have anything to do with you. It’s easy to read into the negativity of others and see it as a challenge to our ego. Yet this type of reaction can trigger unnecessary stress and prevent you from focusing on the positive things in your life. People are people; there’s never a need to link their behavior and your happiness. Knowing this gives you freedom to feel the confidence you deserve.
1. It’s not about you.
Understand people’s actions, even when hurtful, rarely have anything to do with you. It’s easy to read into the negativity of others and see it as a challenge to our ego. Yet this type of reaction can trigger unnecessary stress and prevent you from focusing on the positive things in your life. People are people; there’s never a need to link their behavior and your happiness. Knowing this gives you freedom to feel the confidence you deserve.
2. Wear clothes that make you feel good
If it is a pair of heels or a handbag, maybe its jeans or a pair of sunglasses, wear the clothes that make you feel good cause when you feel good, you become confident!
If it is a pair of heels or a handbag, maybe its jeans or a pair of sunglasses, wear the clothes that make you feel good cause when you feel good, you become confident!
3.Keep up appearances
You can’t just put on the clothes that make you feel good! You’ve gotta do the whole job! Shave, moisturise, put on make up and do your hair and watch your confidence soar!
You can’t just put on the clothes that make you feel good! You’ve gotta do the whole job! Shave, moisturise, put on make up and do your hair and watch your confidence soar!
4. Buy clothes that fit. Wearing clothes that fit well and flatter, no matter the shape of your body, provides an enormous boost to your self esteem. Don’t wait until you’ve arrived at a magical ideal to start dressing your best. Clothes never make the person, but it’s hard to feel confident inside when your outside sends signals of uncertainty. Love what you’re wearing and the world is likely to love it too.
5.Don’t slouch
Sit up straight, stand up straight and walk tall. Slouching is the first sign of a lack of self confidence. Your shoulders down and rounded is a defense mechanism to keep people from noticing you. Keep your chin up and your spine straight and present yourself as open and confident by not slouching. Plus standing up straight makes you seem taller!
Sit up straight, stand up straight and walk tall. Slouching is the first sign of a lack of self confidence. Your shoulders down and rounded is a defense mechanism to keep people from noticing you. Keep your chin up and your spine straight and present yourself as open and confident by not slouching. Plus standing up straight makes you seem taller!
6. Make peace with your body. You will always want to stay active and improve your health, but your confidence comes with the understanding that no matter your size, shape, number of wrinkles or height, you are a person who deserves love and dignity from yourself and those around you. Truly know this, and confidence will bleed through your skin. Stand in front of the mirror and instead of seeing flaws, find something good and repeat it in your head a few times til you believe it. Find something new everyday and soon you will love your body!
7. Work out and eat well
Even if you aren’t aiming for a 6 pack or aren’t the skinniest girl on the block, leading a healthy lifestyle with exercise, rest, good diet and plenty of water will make you feel good about yourself due to the release of endorphins. A little cardio like a brisk walk or some Yoga and pilates 3 times a week will boost your confidence by a lot! Cut out sweets & white wheats as well as gas drinks and alcohol. Drink at least 2 liters of water.
Even if you aren’t aiming for a 6 pack or aren’t the skinniest girl on the block, leading a healthy lifestyle with exercise, rest, good diet and plenty of water will make you feel good about yourself due to the release of endorphins. A little cardio like a brisk walk or some Yoga and pilates 3 times a week will boost your confidence by a lot! Cut out sweets & white wheats as well as gas drinks and alcohol. Drink at least 2 liters of water.
8.Walk the walk and talk the talk
Walk as if you have somewhere to be. That is not too fast and not to slow. Once you have that down to a T, add a little attitude to your walk. There! Now that’s how confident people walk. Now for your talk. Don’t be soft spoken. Speak up without shouting, speak slowly and clearly like you know what you are talking about. Avoid slang and have correct grammar. Now you are on your way!
Walk as if you have somewhere to be. That is not too fast and not to slow. Once you have that down to a T, add a little attitude to your walk. There! Now that’s how confident people walk. Now for your talk. Don’t be soft spoken. Speak up without shouting, speak slowly and clearly like you know what you are talking about. Avoid slang and have correct grammar. Now you are on your way!
9. Be enthusiastic, positive & smile
Playing it cool is a great way to ignore your honest emotions and bury the authentic you. Be happy and excited, and allow the world to see it. Your joy will be infectious, your confidence contagious. Keep positive thoughts in your head, read self motivating books. Smile even when you feel like you’re down and try sweep negative moods and thoughts under the rug. Soon you’ll feel happy all the time and this will exude confidence.
Playing it cool is a great way to ignore your honest emotions and bury the authentic you. Be happy and excited, and allow the world to see it. Your joy will be infectious, your confidence contagious. Keep positive thoughts in your head, read self motivating books. Smile even when you feel like you’re down and try sweep negative moods and thoughts under the rug. Soon you’ll feel happy all the time and this will exude confidence.
10. Pamper yourself
Taking time out for yourself will always boost your confidence. Whether its time to paint your nails, take a candle lit bubble bath or having a massage or pedicure at the salon. A little time out makes you appreciate yourself and feel good which in turn boosts confidence.
Taking time out for yourself will always boost your confidence. Whether its time to paint your nails, take a candle lit bubble bath or having a massage or pedicure at the salon. A little time out makes you appreciate yourself and feel good which in turn boosts confidence.
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